Comments on: Sometimes parenting makes me cry. http://www.misszoot.com/2006/02/28/sometimes-parenting-makes-me-cry/ misszoot.com - the mundane life of a horribly geeky mother of 3 Sun, 12 Feb 2012 13:32:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Kal http://www.misszoot.com/2006/02/28/sometimes-parenting-makes-me-cry/#comment-9752 Kal Fri, 03 Mar 2006 11:37:11 +0000 http://misszoot.com/2006/02/28/sometimes-parenting-makes-me-cry/#comment-9752 Gay, straight, whatever; guaranteed in a year's time he'll be surrounded by girls who realise that they want to be friends with the guys who don't think that indian burns = flirting. And if it gets really bad, call me, I'll snap the little fuckers over my knee alongside you, just gimme a living room floor to sleep on and don't make me eat any penis pudding. Gay, straight, whatever; guaranteed in a year’s time he’ll be surrounded by girls who realise that they want to be friends with the guys who don’t think that indian burns = flirting.

And if it gets really bad, call me, I’ll snap the little fuckers over my knee alongside you, just gimme a living room floor to sleep on and don’t make me eat any penis pudding.

]]> By: Jem http://www.misszoot.com/2006/02/28/sometimes-parenting-makes-me-cry/#comment-9751 Jem Fri, 03 Mar 2006 05:56:30 +0000 http://misszoot.com/2006/02/28/sometimes-parenting-makes-me-cry/#comment-9751 LilZ is the kinda kid I woulda wanted as my friend at school. I was bullied incessantly and I'm still not really over it. I think he's awesome and I think he should do whatever he wants to do - I try not to care any more what anyone thinks and I'm a lot better off for it. LilZ is the kinda kid I woulda wanted as my friend at school. I was bullied incessantly and I’m still not really over it. I think he’s awesome and I think he should do whatever he wants to do – I try not to care any more what anyone thinks and I’m a lot better off for it.

]]> By: Vicky http://www.misszoot.com/2006/02/28/sometimes-parenting-makes-me-cry/#comment-9750 Vicky Wed, 01 Mar 2006 22:26:51 +0000 http://misszoot.com/2006/02/28/sometimes-parenting-makes-me-cry/#comment-9750 Zoot, This is my first time reading here and I'm really glad I stopped in and read this post. My son is 8 and is very much like lilZ. He's not into sports of any kind, loves to draw and colour, wants to take singing and dancing...but he loves him some girls. In fact, the girls at school are the only ones who will befriend him (and not many do). He pretends that having no friends is okay, but seeing his little lip quiver sometimes when he describes another day alone on the playground breaks my heart. He seems to have nothing in common with the other boys and is teased about it a lot. Anyways, I just wanted to thank you for writing that post and I'm sending it to my husband to read. We both struggle with how to help him through it all. You sound like you've got it all under control and I commend you for that. V. Zoot,

This is my first time reading here and I’m really glad I stopped in and read this post. My son is 8 and is very much like lilZ. He’s not into sports of any kind, loves to draw and colour, wants to take singing and dancing…but he loves him some girls. In fact, the girls at school are the only ones who will befriend him (and not many do). He pretends that having no friends is okay, but seeing his little lip quiver sometimes when he describes another day alone on the playground breaks my heart. He seems to have nothing in common with the other boys and is teased about it a lot.

Anyways, I just wanted to thank you for writing that post and I’m sending it to my husband to read. We both struggle with how to help him through it all. You sound like you’ve got it all under control and I commend you for that.

V.

]]> By: Diane http://www.misszoot.com/2006/02/28/sometimes-parenting-makes-me-cry/#comment-9749 Diane Wed, 01 Mar 2006 16:53:12 +0000 http://misszoot.com/2006/02/28/sometimes-parenting-makes-me-cry/#comment-9749 When my daughter took dance, there was 1 boy in a tap class with 12 girls. His mom said he came home from every class in love with a different girl. Girls really like guys that can dance. When my daughter took dance, there was 1 boy in a tap class with 12 girls. His mom said he came home from every class in love with a different girl. Girls really like guys that can dance.

]]> By: Shash http://www.misszoot.com/2006/02/28/sometimes-parenting-makes-me-cry/#comment-9748 Shash Wed, 01 Mar 2006 16:35:16 +0000 http://misszoot.com/2006/02/28/sometimes-parenting-makes-me-cry/#comment-9748 Zoot, I have similar issues. M is not into sports at all, will only watch because my husband loves it so. He, too, loves art and drawing and making up "imaginary (yet complex!) worlds". I know that he's getting some ridicule for some of the things he does, but I can't imagine what it is like to be him on a daily basis, having to deal with everything that he does. If letting him have some enjoyment that makes him happy, in the long run, will be more empowering for him than trying to get him to "go with the flow". As much as M wants to "fit in", I know that, in time, as long as he's happy with himself and his likes, the rest will take care of itself. It sounds like you have that covered with LilZ. I know how you feel though, I second guess myself a lot. Besides, I'm looking forward to seeing him in High School Musical 2 or 3, since I can't seem to see the first one! Have a great day! Zoot, I have similar issues. M is not into sports at all, will only watch because my husband loves it so. He, too, loves art and drawing and making up “imaginary (yet complex!) worlds”. I know that he’s getting some ridicule for some of the things he does, but I can’t imagine what it is like to be him on a daily basis, having to deal with everything that he does. If letting him have some enjoyment that makes him happy, in the long run, will be more empowering for him than trying to get him to “go with the flow”. As much as M wants to “fit in”, I know that, in time, as long as he’s happy with himself and his likes, the rest will take care of itself. It sounds like you have that covered with LilZ. I know how you feel though, I second guess myself a lot.

Besides, I’m looking forward to seeing him in High School Musical 2 or 3, since I can’t seem to see the first one!

Have a great day!

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.misszoot.com/2006/02/28/sometimes-parenting-makes-me-cry/#comment-9747 Anonymous Wed, 01 Mar 2006 16:16:16 +0000 http://misszoot.com/2006/02/28/sometimes-parenting-makes-me-cry/#comment-9747 Wow you sound like the greatest mom! Really supportive of your son. It's cool he does he own thing and has the confidence not to cave into the jeers from his peers. Obviously you've given him the security to be himself. I hope he stays this way and doesn't change during his teen years. I was a weirdo, uncool kid and when I grew up I got to be an animator. Wow you sound like the greatest mom! Really supportive of your son. It’s cool he does he own thing and has the confidence not to cave into the jeers from his peers. Obviously you’ve given him the security to be himself. I hope he stays this way and doesn’t change during his teen years. I was a weirdo, uncool kid and when I grew up I got to be an animator.

]]> By: Andrea http://www.misszoot.com/2006/02/28/sometimes-parenting-makes-me-cry/#comment-9746 Andrea Wed, 01 Mar 2006 16:15:45 +0000 http://misszoot.com/2006/02/28/sometimes-parenting-makes-me-cry/#comment-9746 Children can be so cruel. They mock and make fun of what they don't understand and they do it to make themselves feel better. I was constantly teased for being fat and tall. You are an amazing parent and you are doing all of the right things. LilZ should be free to follow whatever interests he has and you are a great parent for encouraging his creativity. Some day the other kids will catch up...they are just too narrowminded now to get it. Children can be so cruel. They mock and make fun of what they don’t understand and they do it to make themselves feel better. I was constantly teased for being fat and tall. You are an amazing parent and you are doing all of the right things. LilZ should be free to follow whatever interests he has and you are a great parent for encouraging his creativity. Some day the other kids will catch up…they are just too narrowminded now to get it.

]]> By: Sarah http://www.misszoot.com/2006/02/28/sometimes-parenting-makes-me-cry/#comment-9745 Sarah Wed, 01 Mar 2006 16:04:59 +0000 http://misszoot.com/2006/02/28/sometimes-parenting-makes-me-cry/#comment-9745 You should totally take LilZ to ballroom classes! I go and love it - and believe me, young guys are a rarity and are VERY popular at places like that. Even the most manly of men (in middle school) will have to respect that reasoning! AND, he'll be a popular partner at school dances. You should totally take LilZ to ballroom classes! I go and love it – and believe me, young guys are a rarity and are VERY popular at places like that. Even the most manly of men (in middle school) will have to respect that reasoning! AND, he’ll be a popular partner at school dances.

]]> By: Nikki http://www.misszoot.com/2006/02/28/sometimes-parenting-makes-me-cry/#comment-9744 Nikki Wed, 01 Mar 2006 15:40:17 +0000 http://misszoot.com/2006/02/28/sometimes-parenting-makes-me-cry/#comment-9744 Hi Zoot! I have been reading your journal for a while and thought I would pipe in. My boy sounds very similar to yours…He loves to sing and dance and is very artistic. I understand how angry you get when he is mocked for not being a little hellion…hell I have even quit speaking to one of my brothers because of that fact alone. Anyways you’re a great mom and keep up with what you are doing! PS - My son asked his Papa for a pair of tap dance shoes for his birthday. PPS- He is also the top of his class in Tae Kwon Do… After a few years no one will have the balls to mock him. :) Hi Zoot! I have been reading your journal for a while and thought I would pipe in. My boy sounds very similar to yours…He loves to sing and dance and is very artistic. I understand how angry you get when he is mocked for not being a little hellion…hell I have even quit speaking to one of my brothers because of that fact alone. Anyways you’re a great mom and keep up with what you are doing!

PS – My son asked his Papa for a pair of tap dance shoes for his birthday.

PPS- He is also the top of his class in Tae Kwon Do… After a few years no one will have the balls to mock him. :)

]]> By: andi http://www.misszoot.com/2006/02/28/sometimes-parenting-makes-me-cry/#comment-9743 andi Wed, 01 Mar 2006 15:17:34 +0000 http://misszoot.com/2006/02/28/sometimes-parenting-makes-me-cry/#comment-9743 I talked my super-tough-guy into taking ballroom dance and he became totally empowered!! He loved it! and he got really good at it...and lemme tell you...lil'z will be the hero of his high school dances if he actually knows HOW to dance and not HOW to lean against the wall and throw things at girls....get that boy in some dancin!! I talked my super-tough-guy into taking ballroom dance and he became totally empowered!! He loved it! and he got really good at it…and lemme tell you…lil’z will be the hero of his high school dances if he actually knows HOW to dance and not HOW to lean against the wall and throw things at girls….get that boy in some dancin!!

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