Comments on: Back to work http://www.misszoot.com/2007/03/21/back-to-work/ misszoot.com - the mundane life of a horribly geeky mother of 3 Sat, 11 Feb 2012 17:47:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: mamatoo http://www.misszoot.com/2007/03/21/back-to-work/#comment-55528 mamatoo Fri, 23 Mar 2007 20:27:02 +0000 http://www.misszoot.com/2007/03/21/back-to-work/#comment-55528 Good for you in saying this out loud. I've often thought there should be a secret club of women who are conflicted in this decision!! Motherhood can be a career choice, and some women make it their full-time career for a season, and often they do a fabulous job. Others make that choice but (like other careers) it's not the best fit. Choose a career based on your interests and gifts, and I think you'll love whatever you do (and others will benefit!) By the way, I think that if one makes the intentional choice to be home with her kids full-time, the routine gets easier and makes more sense after a while. It's a job that you get better at, and busier in, as you put in some time. Most SAHMs find their time busier (more they need to do, and more they choose to do) as they focus on how they want to make motherhood work for their family. Good for you in saying this out loud. I’ve often thought there should be a secret club of women who are conflicted in this decision!!
Motherhood can be a career choice, and some women make it their full-time career for a season, and often they do a fabulous job. Others make that choice but (like other careers) it’s not the best fit. Choose a career based on your interests and gifts, and I think you’ll love whatever you do (and others will benefit!)
By the way, I think that if one makes the intentional choice to be home with her kids full-time, the routine gets easier and makes more sense after a while. It’s a job that you get better at, and busier in, as you put in some time. Most SAHMs find their time busier (more they need to do, and more they choose to do) as they focus on how they want to make motherhood work for their family.

]]> By: Frema http://www.misszoot.com/2007/03/21/back-to-work/#comment-54946 Frema Thu, 22 Mar 2007 20:01:41 +0000 http://www.misszoot.com/2007/03/21/back-to-work/#comment-54946 Whoops, I meant "biggest," not "best." I'm a tool. Whoops, I meant “biggest,” not “best.” I’m a tool.

]]> By: Frema http://www.misszoot.com/2007/03/21/back-to-work/#comment-54945 Frema Thu, 22 Mar 2007 20:01:14 +0000 http://www.misszoot.com/2007/03/21/back-to-work/#comment-54945 As long as people stay away from blanket statements like "I think it is one of the best mistakes a woman can make" -- on either side of the issue -- I'm cool. No one situation is good or bad for every woman. As long as people stay away from blanket statements like “I think it is one of the best mistakes a woman can make” — on either side of the issue — I’m cool. No one situation is good or bad for every woman.

]]> By: siouxjoe http://www.misszoot.com/2007/03/21/back-to-work/#comment-54540 siouxjoe Thu, 22 Mar 2007 00:53:55 +0000 http://www.misszoot.com/2007/03/21/back-to-work/#comment-54540 I would have totally picked "C" also! In fact I did the other night over Girl Scout Cookies. Which, seriously? Those samoas last less than 12 hrs at my house. I do hate the guilt that we put on ourselves when it involves motherhood. I think you are an awesome mom because you are honest. Cheers! I would have totally picked “C” also! In fact I did the other night over Girl Scout Cookies. Which, seriously? Those samoas last less than 12 hrs at my house. I do hate the guilt that we put on ourselves when it involves motherhood. I think you are an awesome mom because you are honest. Cheers!

]]> By: Sarah http://www.misszoot.com/2007/03/21/back-to-work/#comment-54469 Sarah Wed, 21 Mar 2007 20:14:18 +0000 http://www.misszoot.com/2007/03/21/back-to-work/#comment-54469 Ya, know...my dream was not to be a SAHM either. I don't think you are disgusting for saying you don't want to be a full time SAHM. I think you are a great mom. I mean look you are eating all the ice cream preventing others from ingesting the extra calories. (just kidding) I often eat all the cupcakes and cookies to keep my husband from getting fat. Ya, know…my dream was not to be a SAHM either. I don’t think you are disgusting for saying you don’t want to be a full time SAHM.

I think you are a great mom. I mean look you are eating all the ice cream preventing others from ingesting the extra calories. (just kidding) I often eat all the cupcakes and cookies to keep my husband from getting fat.

]]> By: laurie http://www.misszoot.com/2007/03/21/back-to-work/#comment-54438 laurie Wed, 21 Mar 2007 19:07:21 +0000 http://www.misszoot.com/2007/03/21/back-to-work/#comment-54438 Could not agree with you more. I feel bad saying that I like to get out to go to work, but I do, but on the other hand, I do wish that I had more time with C. I would love to be able to do my job like 3-4 days a week. That will probably happen when pigs fly. Could not agree with you more. I feel bad saying that I like to get out to go to work, but I do, but on the other hand, I do wish that I had more time with C. I would love to be able to do my job like 3-4 days a week. That will probably happen when pigs fly.

]]> By: Katy http://www.misszoot.com/2007/03/21/back-to-work/#comment-54434 Katy Wed, 21 Mar 2007 19:05:18 +0000 http://www.misszoot.com/2007/03/21/back-to-work/#comment-54434 I agree that feminism today is about having the power to make your choices cognizantly and without criticism from other moms. There's no ideal situation, though because I think that once you have children, you have to make sacrifices somewhere. My son is 9 months old and I've worked full time and am now working part time. In terms of time with him, the part time gig is definitely making me happier because I'm with him more often. But the job is less interesting. Part time work often ends up being less important because companies can't invest in you the same way. Arrgh. I agree that feminism today is about having the power to make your choices cognizantly and without criticism from other moms. There’s no ideal situation, though because I think that once you have children, you have to make sacrifices somewhere. My son is 9 months old and I’ve worked full time and am now working part time. In terms of time with him, the part time gig is definitely making me happier because I’m with him more often. But the job is less interesting. Part time work often ends up being less important because companies can’t invest in you the same way. Arrgh.

]]> By: sunShine http://www.misszoot.com/2007/03/21/back-to-work/#comment-54422 sunShine Wed, 21 Mar 2007 18:20:19 +0000 http://www.misszoot.com/2007/03/21/back-to-work/#comment-54422 I agree with you, I would not want to be a SAHM. I do not have the patience for it. I would like to be gone less hours than I am now, where is that perfect world that we all keep looking for? Sometimes I feel like I am missing out on a lot of stuff. I agree with you, I would not want to be a SAHM. I do not have the patience for it. I would like to be gone less hours than I am now, where is that perfect world that we all keep looking for? Sometimes I feel like I am missing out on a lot of stuff.

]]> By: michelle/weaker vessel http://www.misszoot.com/2007/03/21/back-to-work/#comment-54394 michelle/weaker vessel Wed, 21 Mar 2007 17:14:35 +0000 http://www.misszoot.com/2007/03/21/back-to-work/#comment-54394 I would wither without outside responsibilities and intellectual stimulation, but I don't think I could ever go back to having a job job, a.k.a., pantyhose, insane bosses, ceding to authority, annoying coworkers, etc. etc. etc. I do sometimes fantasize about having nothing to worry about work-wise, because when you're a freelancer, it's kind of like you're always on call and it's really hard to just turn off work anxiety. I would wither without outside responsibilities and intellectual stimulation, but I don’t think I could ever go back to having a job job, a.k.a., pantyhose, insane bosses, ceding to authority, annoying coworkers, etc. etc. etc. I do sometimes fantasize about having nothing to worry about work-wise, because when you’re a freelancer, it’s kind of like you’re always on call and it’s really hard to just turn off work anxiety.

]]> By: Holly http://www.misszoot.com/2007/03/21/back-to-work/#comment-54387 Holly Wed, 21 Mar 2007 16:59:47 +0000 http://www.misszoot.com/2007/03/21/back-to-work/#comment-54387 I am totally with you. I work full-time now and find it hard to be away from my baby for so long. Part-time would be awesome. I am a 'have your cake and eat it too' kind of gal. I am totally with you. I work full-time now and find it hard to be away from my baby for so long. Part-time would be awesome. I am a ‘have your cake and eat it too’ kind of gal.

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