I know you must be on the edge of your seats wondering about my stained shirt, but I was up throughout the night getting rid of some food that didn’t sit well with me. Nothing like a midnight vomit session to make for a restful night!
I’ve been curled up on the couch moaning and watching the VATech coverage this morning and I felt I should at least mention it. I don’t like talking about this stuff on my site because I always feel like it sounds like I’m trying to jump in on something because everyone else is. No amount of “How tragic” sounds sincere enough to me. But - talking about puking seems a little crass too. Just know I’m thinking about it. I’ve had a hard time figuring out how to talk to LilZ about it. How do I tell him about it without making him scared? I just don’t know.
I guess I just wanted to say that I’ll keep talking about stupid shit here throughout the day, like I did yesterday. Maybe that’s my way of coping? I don’t know. I just didn’t want this tragedy to go by without me at least saying, “I’m so sorry” once. And I am. I’m very sorry. As with every other tragedy that occurs, it motivates me to hug my family a few extra times for the day. It’s the least I can do.
I had to quite watching the news at some point last night. I told my husband we just needed to switch it off. I also don’t handle those kinds of things very well. It’s amazing that there is that kind of evil out there. I will be praying for all of those kids/families whose lives have been changed forever.
I didn’t even hear about it until sometime after 4 yesterday, where I was imediatly thrown into some sort of panic, when i remembered one of my best high school friends goes there. She’s OK, thank god, but my heart goes out to everyone there.
I think the best way to talk to LilZ about it… Just tell him the truth. All these wild rumors are going to be going around his school, more than likely. Just talk to him, like you would talk to him about anything else. Try and make sure, though, that he is safe. And also, if something like that were to happen at his school? Tell him one of the smartest things he can do, is throw himself down on the ground and act like he was shot, as well. One of the kids in the classroom did that, and he said that’s the only reason he thinks he’s still alive.
Yeah, I hate to get all dramatic on my blog about it, because i wasn’t personally affected, but I still felt I had to say something. How can you not? For me, this week is always, always filled with a touch of sadness anyway - Wace, Columbine, Oklahoma City and now we just added another one.
That’s how I am, Cagey. I am not personally affected - so I hate to take away from those who are - but then again, I am thinking about it.
I didn’t even think about how all those other tragedies happened this week also. It’s so horrible.
Zoot -
I totally feel the same way as you, but when I try to explain that to people it totally doesn’t come out right.
I’m also the same way if an acquaintance that I didn’t know much passes away - I feel like I need to be strong for those that are super-close to that person, those that really “deserve” to be affected. It’s such a weird concept and hard to describe to my friends, but I just feel guilty being outwardly upset about in that situation, like I am taking away from those that are close to it.
And had no idea that all those tragedies happened this same week. WEIRD.
I may be a cold, cold person, but I feel like if I mourned for every tragedy like this, I would spend my entire life crying.
I had the midnight vomit session too.
not sure what that’s all about.
After Vatech nightmares and wanting to keep my child with me always and realizing the futility of that, too….
My Mom is a college professor and received this info from a colleague. I thought it might be helpful for people with kids. God bless Sesame Street!
>Colleagues, the recent incidents at Virginia Tech have >affected us…because we are part of a college >community. However, children are also often aware of >such events, even when adults do not realize the >children are familiar with the events. Most children >understand that college is a kind of school, and they >can become afraid about safety at their school or >other places. Sometimes they are not able to put >words to their worries.
>Because many of our campus community have active >roles in the lives of young children, I would like to >suggest the following excellent resources for initiating >discussions with children or responding to their >questions.
>Talking With Children During Stressful Times
>http://www.sesameworkshop.org/parents/advice/article.php?contentId=8354163&&
>[Sesame Street]
>Comforting Children Through Stressful Times
>http://www.sesameworkshop.org/parents/advice/article.php?contentId=12583927
>[Sesame Street]
>Talking with Children About Terrorism and War
>http://aacap.org/page.ww?name=Talking+to+Children+about+Terrorism+and+War§ion=Facts+for+Families
>[American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry]
>Talking With Children When the Talking Gets Tough:
>http://www.ces.purdue.edu/cfs/topics/HD/TalkChildrenTalkGetsTough.pdf
>[Judith Myers-Walls, parenting expert at Purdue University in Indiana]