It’s funny, I really assumed this extended time with NikkiZ would make her incredibly sick of me by days end. I thought she’d be happy to leave my company for that of her brother and Dad. She does ask about them all day, making sure they’re not hiding somewhere, but she still wants to be attached to my hip/leg/back/neck in the evenings. Even more so than before. I finally had my first Cooking Dinner with a Toddler Wrapped Around my Leg experience I’ve heard many of you mention. She wants to be in my arms and she’ll murmur, “My mommy…” to anyone that comes near.
I’m kinda hoping this is just her fear that this newfound extra time will go away. That she’s so excited to have me here (she keeps looking for reassurance…”No more school, Mommy. Right?”) and she’s afraid it’s only temporary. So, she has become extra clingy and affection.
And OH MY GOD…I couldn’t love it more.
She’ll snuggle up with me in bed to watch TV and she’ll look at me and say, “How ya’ doin’ Mom?” She’ll give me hugs and pat my back and spontaneously declare her love for me. She wants to sit in my lap if I’m at the computer and if I try to put her in front of the television while I get some work done, she pats the spot next to her and says, “Sit with me, Mommy.” Which I do, because who can say “No.” to that?
While this all makes it impossible to get 8 hours of work done in one day, it is something I am savoring. I don’t think I realized how much I longed for this. It’s like suddenly I’m realizing there was a part of my heart missing her and now that it’s getting fulfilled, I’m wondering how I managed before? How did I not long for her kisses all day? I guess it was survival. I had to just go about my day and act like I wasn’t missing her in order to keep that pain at bay.
Of course - this time next week I’ll probably be curled up in the fetal position, pulling at my hair and moaning…”Take Her Away From Me…Give Me A Break.”
But for right now? I’m loving it.
*Smile* That is wonderful.
Enjoy it!
I know exactly what you mean. Which is probably the real reason I’m not ending our co-sleeping (despite the middle of the night bladder kicks — that I foolishly thought would end after the pregnancy was over!).
Nothing in the world better than the love of a toddler!
That made my eyes fill with tears because I remember that too, and I miss it SO much! I want to be home with my babies again…
I’m so glad you’re getting to do it for now!
Aww. That’s awesome. Enjoy it!
it’s wonderful to be cuddled and loved by a toddler…and yeah, in a week or two you will probably be curled up in the fetal position LOL. This is the “honeymoon” phase, and it’ll change, for both of you.
aww..how cute!
What a wonderful gift for the two of you - enjoy!
I remember those days from when I worked at home. At that time J was only in preschool for a half day, three days a week. I am blessed in that that he loves to play on his own and he did that very well so that I was able to get work done . . but those moments of him wanting to just be “with” me were so awesome and I miss that very much!
I hope you find that she never loses that. I know that J hasn’t. It has been almost 2 years now since I worked at home with him there, and he will still just come and randomly give me a hug and tell me that I am the “best mommy ever!” or want to sit with me in my recliner and watch tv and snuggle. Heck, my 13 year old still wants to do that sometimes!
And those pats on the back? Love those!!
Enjoy every single second of that. And remember it when she turns 13.
enjoy!!!
That’s exactly how I feel about my Alex. He gives me what I never knew I could have (as a mother).
Aww, that’s great!
Awww that is so cool! I am really feeling the urge to quit my full time job and find a PT (9-2) kind of job so I can spend more time w/ my kids…and more importantly BETTER time w/ my kids. I feel so stressed all of the time and feel that it rubs off on them and they don’t get the ME they deserve. It is always rush, rush, rush. I am just afraid of losing 40% of our income-yikes, we would really have to cut back on some of the frivolous things we enjoy, but reading this makes me think it would be worth it. PS I really enjoy reading you every day, just not much of a commentor.
Meghan is the same with me. Ever since she wasn’t well on Monday, all she seems to want to do is have cuddles with Mummy. She will lie down with me while we watch TV and I walk around with her in my arms and her head on my shoulder. Its so nice after months and months of not wanting a hug.
Awesome! I’m also amazed that spending all day with my somewhat grumpy, hormonal self doesn’t make my daughter leap into my husband’s arms when he gets home - but she wants momma even more when daddy gets home. My theory is that she doesn’t want to share me when he gets home.
Enjoy it! And yes, there are days that I want nothing more than to remove her from my leg so I can roam the house freely…but it still feels good.
Well that’s so darn sweet! I need to rent a toddler for those days when I’m feeling down, I think
Awww! That is so very sweet. Enjoy!
I used to work part time when my daughter was almost 2. When I came home full time she was just like that. I was her favorite person in the world. It was very sweet and always made me feel good, but it lasted about 6 months and by that time I WAS DONE. It gets old fairly quick.
But ya kinda miss it when they move on.
That is great! Enjoy it!