2. I’m not a parent! But I still yell occasionally. I’ve stopped yelling at my boyfriend though…he’s the first boyfriend I’ve had who I’m actually scared of enough NOT to yell. He yells himself and I’m scared of that, plus if I yell at him, he’ll start punching things (not me) and that scares the crap out of me so I don’t yell at him anymore.

3. If I yell at someone and they listen to me, I think Mission Accomplished. But I feel bad after. lol

4. I think kids have been brought up different ways…I mean things were way less politically correct years ago, with the spankings and whatever, and especially in Pacific culture…hidings are a BIG part of growing up haha…and the kids normally end up really well behaved adults. I would rather have discipline that was a little harsh and well mannered kids, rather than no discipline and little brats. That being said, I don’t think its NECESSARY. I don’t think forceful discipline/yelling is NECESSARY exactly, but I don’t think its necessarily the worst thing ever, either. Like anything, there are different ways to do things…its just one way with its own pros or cons! Whatever anyone does, theres always going to be scary thing and good things one remembers about their childhood (hopefully) and thats the way it should be.

I heard somewhere to “use the Voice of Authority” (which is a low, calm voice) instead of yelling and you’ll get better results. Guess what? It works SO much better!

First off, you’re not a wimp. My mother yelled sometimes, but when she did it we (my 2 brothers and I) always knew it was for a reason….like telling my little brother that bees won’t sting you if you ask them not to. She kept it about what we did, and it was clear that she was only angry at our particular actions.

My father? He wasn’t so much a yeller as he was a screamer. I felt like he always screamed at us. Didn’t load the dishwasher right? That’s a scream. Didn’t brush your teeth? Yep. And like someone else posted above, it aways felt like what he meant is “you’re such a waste and I don’t love you.” He still makes me cry when I hear his voice get louder….and we live on opposite sides of the country!

I don’t know what I’ll do to my own kids when I have them, but right now I DO yell at my dog, and frequently threaten to sell her to the puppy farm when she pees on my goddamn couch. She takes it in stride and tries to lick up my nose to apologize.

I am a total yeller and it makes me feel horrible and never works. I think the only good thing about it is that I am totally comfortable when someone is yeling at me. It doesnt sway me from what I am doing, and that seems to have helped in proving my leadership. Oddly.

The terrible aspect of yelling is that it destroys anything personal. In fact recently my best friend explained to me that its either no-yeling, or our friendship. So out they go. Kidding. In all seriousness, it has to stop. No excuses.

If you cant sit the person (or people) down and discuss the situtaion, there are bigger problems that yeling isn’t going to fix. Granted, it still feels almost mandatory to release that anger before I can logically think about “discussing” anything, but it has to stop, so you have to figure out how to release.

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1.When I was little getting yelled at was the worst. I was spanked twice and I didn’t like that either but yelling at me made me feel small and demeaned. It made me feel like I couldn’t trust my mom, like I was always on egg shells and unsure of myself.

2. Yes I yell as a parent. It makes me feel like shit and it makes me cry. I spend every night thinking of what an asshole parent I am and feeling like soon my son (who is 2.5) will be old enough to wonder why mommy yells all the time and why she is mean. I also worry because I have an infant that I don’t yell at (who yells at infants?) and I’m terrified my older son will feel like the bad rotten child because only he gets yelled at. I probably yell every day, the same way that every night I go to sleep hoping to wake up with the strength to be a better mom and every single day I wake up yelling.

3. Like I said I feel like shit yelling. I don’t really apologize because I think he is too young to understand and honestly, the yelling doesn’t phase him, he still goes about doing what he is doing which then brings on a wrist squeeze or something because I don’t hit or slap or tap on the hand and he just looks at me like a moron and keeps doing what he is doing. However if he is home with dad is is a model of perfection and dad has no reason to yell leaving me to always be the asshole parent, because around me he is just insane.

4. I think yelling is terrible. I am 26 and still afraid of my mom because of her yelling. I don’t want my kids to ever be scared of me, I don’t want them to ever think they can’t tell me something or admit when they make a mistake for fear I will yell. To this day yelling at me by anyone is the ONLY thing that makes me cry (besides stuff to do with my kids) I want to stop yelling, and I feel like I have spans of 3 or 4 days where I think I have it all figured out and I don’t yell and then I just forget and start yelling again. As I’m tryping this I’ve already yelled at my son about 5 times for touching my computer and giving me a book I don’t feel like reading right now because I must comment on your post.

The final flip side of yelling is that I’m terrified people will think I love my kids less because I yell. Which isn’t true, I firmly believe my kids are the only reason I was born, they are the only reason I live and they are my entire life. Yet I can’t help thinking that others or even my kids will think I’m just some mean bitch who shouldn’t have had kids.

My parents were total yellers and would spank sometimes. As a kid, I always felt stupid after being yelled at, but I much preferred it to spanking. Honestly, I don’t think it was the yelling that was traumatizing, it was the words that were used.

As a parent, I am totally embarrassed to admit, that I am a yeller. I’m not a spanker, but I do yell. A lot. I try not to, because I feel like crap after I do it, but I do it anyways. I will say that I never say anything “mean” or demeaning to the kids.

I do feel guilty after yelling most of the time. Occasionally, I feel like it was justified. I do wish that I could be more calm sometimes. The kids rarely cry when I yell at them, but they do know I mean business when I do it.

But when I babysit, I yell. And the last time, since I have a much louder voice, my poor little niece was on the verge of tears and that’s when I knew I wanted to not do that again. Because I don’t like to make kids cry! It was heart-wrenching. But that is my first instinct every time.

1. How did you feel about getting YELLED at as a kid? Did it traumatize anyone as much as it did me or am I a giant wuss? The yelling did not really traumatize me, but I would prefer a spanking any day to being yelled at…

2. Do you YELL as a parent? How often does it happen? Or maybe – how bad does the crime have to be to warrant a YELL? I’ll admit, I used to be a frequent YELLER. This is the honest truth. I’ve yelled at my kids 2 times. Honestly, I had 2 teachers that I inherited from the previous owner that were yellers and I would cringe and pray that they would quit. I finally got rid of them and that was defiitely one of the reasons.

3. How do you feel after you YELL? Does it make your kids cry? If it does – do you feel like a total asshole like I do? Do you apologize later? Or do you just consider: Mission Accomplished. (Because sometimes I’m angry enough to feel the latter. I’ll admit.) I did feel bad after I yelled at my kids…most definitely, the guilt will kill you.

4. Do you think YELLING is not a big deal at all and trying to not YELL is one of the many ways we’re over-pampering our kids? Because sometimes I wonder that too. Am I babying my kids too much by trying to spare their feelings when their in trouble? I mean, shouldn’t they be upset if they’re in trouble? Isn’t that the point? I want my kids to be upset when they are in trouble. Most definitely. And, I want my kids to feel remorse when they do. I don’t think anyone can really over pamper their kids. I think kids are only kids once and they need to know you love them and they can always come to you. (I have no clue what the last part has to do with yelling, just consider it icing on the cake)