Update

I’m mainly posting this because I’m not sure where I’ll be or how easy it will be to post the next few days/weeks. I’m going home to Knoxville to start saying goodbye to my Dad. I’m not sure how much time we have left with him, but he’s getting hospice care to see him through to the end with as little pain as possible. Please keep all of us in your thoughts. I’d say more about it but I am struggling to type through the tears.



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209 Responses to “Update”
  1. W. Scott Whitlock says:

    Oh no. Call me if you need to talk.

    Scott

  2. Mary Jo says:

    Oh my goodness!!! I am so sorry to hear this news. I will keep your family in my thoughts through this time. When my dad passed it was quick… the waiting that you will have to do? I cannot even imagine. If you need anything please let me know. My heart is completely broken for you. (hugs)

  3. lisa says:

    Oh, no. I’m so sorry.

  4. jamie says:

    Oh poop. Poop poop poop. Thinking of you and your family.

  5. Holly says:

    I’m so sorry, definitely thinking of you. :)

  6. Marilyn says:

    :( oh no… Oh kim… I’m so so so sorry. :( you gave all my thoughts and prayers and MASSIVE hugs right now. Take all the time you need.

  7. del says:

    Thinking of you and your family. Take care.

  8. Heather says:

    I’m so sorry luv. You and yours are most definitely in my prayers <3

  9. I’m so sorry. From what you’ve written about your dad during the last few years that I’ve been reading, he must be an amazing man, and I can imagine that saying goodbye will be excruciating. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

    I lost my favorite aunt to multiple myeloma this past fall. She was an incredible lady whom I strive to be more like. I guess this disease picks the best ones. It is an asshole of a disease.

  10. Cobblestone says:

    My thoughts are with you and your family.

  11. Lisa says:

    *hugs* Thinking of all of you.

  12. Bobbie says:

    Keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers.

    Bobbie

  13. Jessica says:

    Oh my gosh! I’m so shocked and saddened to hear this. I thought your dad was doing better, and I’m so sorry for you and your family to be going through this right now. I’m keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers and I’ll be here to read more when you’re back.

  14. Maribeth says:

    Oh Zoot! I am so sorry to hear this. I will keep you all in my prayers.

  15. SupaCoo says:

    I am so sad for you and your family. I wish you the best possible during this heartbreaking time.

  16. LaShawn says:

    Praying for you and for your family.

  17. Z says:

    I am so sorry to hear this, and my thoughts are with you and your family!

  18. Dorene says:

    I am so sorry.

  19. Emily says:

    You’re in my thoughts, I know this is a really hard thing to go through.

  20. Crystal says:

    I am so sorry. You will be in my thougths and prayers.

  21. Courtney says:

    So sorry, Zoot. I’ll keep you guys in my prayers.

  22. Danielle says:

    I’m SO sorry! You’re in our thoughts and prayers.

  23. Bunny says:

    Kim, I cannot imagine how hard this must be for you. I am thinking of you and your family.

  24. Swistle says:

    So sorry. Thinking of you.

  25. Stephanie says:

    Oh no….my heart hearts reading this I feel for you and your family durning this difficult time and will keep you in my prayers through this that you come through and remember all the good things and take a part of him with you. BIG HUG!

  26. Kate says:

    There are no words to ease your pain. Know that you are in the thoughts of many.

  27. Cate says:

    I’m so sorry to hear this awful news.

  28. Cass says:

    Thinking about all of you – you’ll be in our thoughts and prayers.

  29. Mel says:

    Thinking of you and praying!! I will say that Hospice was a huge blessing to our family when we needed them.

  30. Christina says:

    I am sorry – you are in my thoughts.

  31. Carolyn says:

    I have been in exactly this spot and it is awful. I am so, so sorry you have to go through it. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

  32. Monica says:

    Oh, Zoot, I am so sorry. I will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. I know there is nothing anyone can say that can ease your pain.

  33. Average Jane says:

    I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going through. I’ll be thinking of you and your family.

  34. NTE says:

    I’m so sorry. I know that this will be unbelievably difficult for you all, and I will be thinking of you, sending comforting thoughts your way.

  35. Jamie says:

    Oh, Kim. I’m so sorry. My prayers are with you and the family.

  36. cagey says:

    I am positively shocked. I am so sad that you and your sweet family is going through this. I could go on about the unfairness, but that would be redundant.

    Will send email shortly.

  37. Julie says:

    Holding you and your family in the light, as the Quakers say.

    It is hard and horrible. I hope there is some consolation in being able to say goodbye.

  38. EJW says:

    Oh Zoot, I’m so sorry. Hospice is an amazing place and I know they’ll be able to help your dad and your family in this difficult time. I’ll be thinking of you.

  39. alimomof3 says:

    I am so sorry to hear about your dad. I lost my dad a little over a year ago. He went through hospice too. There is little to say to console you now, but I really did appreciate the time I had to say goodbye to him. My thoughts are with you and your family.

  40. Michele says:

    I’m so sorry to hear this. I’ll be keeping y’all in my thoughts.

  41. Alison C says:

    I am so sorry. Thinking of you and sending hugs

  42. Elizabeth says:

    Crying with you, praying for you.

  43. Karin says:

    So very very sorry. I unfortunately know how difficult it is to say goodbye to a parent, so my heart is with you. *hugs*

  44. Alli says:

    hugs and prayers for you and your family.

  45. Mandee says:

    So terribly sorry. You and your family will be in my thoughts.

  46. Michelle/weaker vessel says:

    Oh my gosh, honeysuckle, this is terrible. I know how much he means to you. A boatload of comforting and peaceful vibes to him, to you, to all of you. Please, please, please call if you need anything.

  47. ShortyMom says:

    My thoughts are with you and your family!

  48. WonderSpot says:

    I’m very sorry – for you and your family.

  49. Monica says:

    I’m so sorry.

  50. Holly says:

    I’m so sorry to hear about your father. You and your family will definitely be in my thoughts.

  51. Carrie says:

    Oh Zoot. I am so sorry to hear this news. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs to you!

  52. Zoot. I am so sorry, honey. You and your whole family are in my prayers.

  53. kdiddy says:

    I’m so sorry, mama.

    *hugs*

  54. Elaine says:

    I’m so sorry. I wish there was something I could do. But I will at least keep you and your family in my prayers. Drive safe.

  55. gabrielle says:

    Oh no. I’m so sorry. You will all be in my thoughts.

  56. Sarah says:

    I’m so sorry. Praying for you and your family, Zoot. Much love from the West coast for you.

  57. Shannon says:

    K-

    I can’t even imagine what you are feeling right now, but I promise that I will be praying for you, your brother, and especially your dad. Let me know if there is anything that I can do. I am always here to listen.

    -S

  58. nanann says:

    I’m so very sorry Zoot. *hugs*

  59. Dianna says:

    Oh Zoot, I’m so sorry. Will be keeping you & your family in my thoughts & prayers.

  60. Shina Hart says:

    I’m so sorry Zoot Family. You’re in my thought and prayers.

  61. Kristin Wood says:

    Oh no, oh, I am so, so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your sweet family.

  62. Maggie says:

    All my thoughts and sympathies are with you.

  63. Miss W says:

    I am so very, very sorry!! Much love and many prayers for your dad’s comfort, for you, your kids and your brother as you all deal with it.

  64. Kym says:

    Kim, I am so very sorry. I am praying for you and your family.

  65. JSauce says:

    I’m so sorry Kim. I’m thinking of you and yours.

  66. Nienuh says:

    I’m so sorry. ((hug))

  67. Sarah Lena says:

    Sending love and Krispie Kremes your way, doll.

  68. OmegaMom says:

    I’m sorry. It’s hard. Take care.

  69. oregoncoastgirl says:

    Holding you and your family gently in my heart and wishing peace for all of you.

  70. Ida says:

    I am so sorry. I will be thinking about you and your family.

  71. Amy says:

    I’m so sorry. You will be in my thoughts. Sending hugs from Tuscaloosa!

  72. Tiffany says:

    oh, I am sorry, you and your family are in my prayers.

  73. bouncy says:

    oh, i am so sorry. i can’t imagine…

  74. Linda260 says:

    We wish him peace, and you comfort.

  75. Beeps says:

    I am thinking of you.

  76. I am so sorry…. My dad died last year (lungcancer) and I know there is nothing I can say to ease the sorrow. I’m so sorry.But maybe…. Try not to think of the time you have left as goodbye… try to think of it as hellos that you will remember until you meet again.

  77. Alex says:

    I’m crying too. I’m so sorry. Wishing you peace.

  78. April says:

    Oh, Kim, I am so sorry. Nothing I can say will make anything better, but please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

  79. Carolyn says:

    I am so so sorry. We’ll keep you & your family in our prayers. Hugs.

  80. Rantn.n.ravn says:

    My condolences to everyone in your family, I know hospice is very helpful in these situations, rely on them to help you get through til the end.

    *big internet group hug*

  81. Jummy says:

    I’ve just said a prayer for you and your family Zoot. I’m sorry for this difficult time you’re going through…and my thoughts are with you.

  82. Cecelia says:

    Hospice is a wonderful organization. He’ll be in wonderful care. All my best to you. Remember to eat and sleep and to keep your strength up so you can be there for your dad.

  83. Azul says:

    I’m so sorry. You’ll be in my prayers. Take care.

  84. Sheryl says:

    Oh man, I’m so so sorry! I thought he was getting better, and now hospice?! My thoughts are with you and your family.

  85. carrisa says:

    I’m so so sorry to hear this. I also thought he was getting better. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this time.

  86. I’m so sorry… i’ll be thinking of you all.

  87. ksmaybe says:

    I’m so sorry Zoot. I’ll be thinking of you and your family.

  88. Lisa says:

    A stranger from Michigan who reads your blog–you and your family are in my thoughts.

  89. alfredsmom says:

    Oh zoot- I am so so sorry.

  90. Mimi says:

    Delurking to tell you how very sorry I am. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. ((hugs))

  91. I’m so sorry. I’ll be keeping you and your family in my thoughts.

  92. Sonja says:

    I’m so sorry! You’ll be in my thoughts.

  93. Stephany says:

    Coming out of lurking….

    Your dad sounds like an awesome person from what you have written about him over the years. I am sorry to hear this. I will be thinking of you and your family.

  94. Janet says:

    Oh, Kim, I’m so sorry :( I know how close you are to your Dad. I wish there was something I could say or do to make it better or at least not hurt so much…

    (((Kim)))

  95. little dutch girl says:

    Zoot,
    I will be thinking of you and your loved ones.
    so sorry.

  96. Very sorry, Zoot. I’ll be thinking of all of you. Peace.

  97. amber says:

    Oh, sweetie… I’m so sorry. My thoughts are with you.

  98. Busy Mom says:

    I am so sorry. Let the hospice folks help all of you, they are wonderful, I know.

    Peace to all, and I’ll be thinking about you.

  99. Jessica says:

    Oh, Zoot. I’m so, so sorry. I wish there were better words. You and your family are in my thoughts. *hugs*

  100. margalit says:

    I’m so sorry to hear that your dad is failing. I had hopes that he was doing better. I do hope that his last days will be filled with the comfort that you and your family are with him.

    I’ll be thinking of you.

  101. Valerie in Hsv says:

    I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this time.

  102. AmandaL says:

    I’ll be keeping your family in my thoughts – I can’t imagine how you must be feeling.

  103. Kami says:

    My heart is breaking for you, hang in there. Praying big time for your whole family.

  104. shokufeh says:

    Saying I’m sorry seems woefully inadequate. But it’s all I’ve got. I’m so sorry. Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.

  105. M&Co. says:

    Peace be with you.

  106. Rachael says:

    I’ll be keeping you and your dad and family in my thoughts and prayers. I’m so sorry.

  107. stacey says:

    I am so so so so sorry to hear this. You are in my thoughts and prayers right now. All of your family is.

  108. Katy says:

    I’m so sorry :( . I’ve not been doing much commenting recently but I have been reading about your Dad being ill and I didn’t think it would come to this. Your family are in my thoughts.

  109. Courtney says:

    Oh, honey, I am so so sorry. :(

  110. Maria says:

    I’m so sorry. (((((Kim)))))

  111. Alana says:

    ((Hugs)) losing a parent sucks… lost my dad in highschool but I am sure it doesn’t get any easier… take comfort in your memories and in the love your family shares. You are in my thoughts!

  112. KARA! says:

    I’m so sorry to hear this. Sending positive thoughts your way.

  113. miuzi says:

    So sorry. Wishing you and your family strength and peace.

  114. Erin says:

    You will absolutely be in my thoughts. It’s never easy to let go of a parent. I’m glad he has Hospice. They help the family and the patient more than you can imagine.

  115. Roz says:

    delurking to say that there is nothing that I CAN say that will make this any easier…so I will, as many others are doing keep you in my thoughts and prayers…know you are cared for and about!

  116. Lauren says:

    I am so very sorry. As with so many others…your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

  117. Allison says:

    Kim – so, so sorry…. I know how hard this is gonna be and just remember if you need anything we are here to listen… And I promise I can and will cry and laugh right along with you….

    LOVE YOU!!!!!!! Keeping you in my heart over the next few days, weeks, months, years…

  118. Shannon Briese Aissen says:

    Kim. Thinking and praying for you all.

  119. I’m so sorry. If you need someone to chase the children at the park or just listen, call me.

  120. Brie says:

    Hugs to you and yours and know that you all are held close in thought and prayer.

  121. Penny says:

    De-lurking to say I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. I lost my Mom in January after four months of wondering if each day was going to be our last together so I know how hard this is. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

  122. Oh, Zoot. Thinking of you and your family. Hugs.

  123. Joy B says:

    I am SO sad to hear this! I will be thinking of you during this extremely difficult time for you and the rest of your family.

  124. Sarah says:

    I am so, so sorry. My heart and thoughts are with you.

  125. Susan says:

    You are in my thoughts.

  126. Randi says:

    Oh Kim, I’m so sorry! I hope that he is in peace and I hope that you and yours are as well.

  127. VHMPrincess says:

    My thoughts are with you and your family.

  128. angie says:

    I’m so sorry. There are no adequate words. You’ll all be in my thoughts and prayers.

  129. The old neighbor Heather says:

    Kim, I am so sorry for your father’s sudden illness. I am keeping him and your in my thoughts and prayers. May he have peace and calmness and may his heart be filled with love as you and the rest of the family surround him.

    Thinking of you,
    Heather

  130. Oh no Kim – I am so very sorry. I’ll be thinking of you and your family.

  131. zanie says:

    Oh No! You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope the time with your dad is filled with love calm and peace.

  132. Juls says:

    You are definitely in my thoughts. I know first hand how tough loss is. My step-dad (who was my father) died in 2005 and my husband died in March 2007. Do what you need to do to make it as right as it can be? I hope you can understand my meaning.

  133. Shannon says:

    I am so sorry and I just wanted to let you know that I will be thinking of you and your beautiful family. You all will be in my heart and in my prayers, sending love from San Diego

  134. kimblahg says:

    I’m so sorry. Hugs.

  135. secha says:

    *Hugs* So sorry, Zoot. My thoughts go out to you and your family. Be there for each other, to help each other through this hard time. <3

  136. Skurvy says:

    I am so sorry to hear this. Please be careful while you’re on the road and remember to take care of yourself. We will keep you, your father and the rest of your family in our thoughts and prayers.

  137. wn says:

    I’m so so SO sorry. My thoughts are with you and your whole family. Take care of yourself and one another in this difficult time.

  138. Beverly says:

    So sorry. You guys are in my thoughts.

  139. Susan says:

    I am so sorry to hear this. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Peace.

  140. Fraulein N says:

    Oh God. Oh God I’m so sorry.

  141. Brenda says:

    You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers.

  142. Katherine says:

    I am so sorry to hear that. You and your family are in my thoughts. Take care of yourself.

  143. Suzy says:

    I am so very sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family.

  144. Wacky Mommy says:

    Hon, i am so sorry. I’m lighting my candles and holding your family in my thoughts.

  145. Rachel says:

    So, so sorry. You guys are in our thoughts and prayers.

  146. bessie.viola says:

    I am so, so sorry to hear this. I am keeping your dad and your entire family in my prayers.

    Be well.

  147. vanna says:

    kim – i’m so very sorry for you and your family. you are all in my thoughts.

  148. lynne says:

    I’m so sorry to hear this love. My thoughts are with you through this difficult time.

  149. Elizabeth says:

    Oh Kim… I am so sorry to hear this news. I wish you strength and love through this difficult time! Nothing we can say will make it better but know that the internet is thinking of you and your beautiful family!

  150. Haley says:

    I’m thinking of you and your family wishing you peace.

  151. Alias Mother says:

    My father died when I was 22, so I know well the pain you are feeling and will be feeling for some time to come. Things will be dark for a while, but I’m happy to say that while the pain fades, the good memories remain.

    Love and peace to yours.

  152. Jenn says:

    I’m so, so sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

  153. Christy says:

    So sorry to hear about your dad – my prayers are with you & your family.

  154. Katie says:

    I am so sorry! Losing a loved one is very hard, and I will be thinking and praying for you and your family daily! My grandpa is on hospice currently, and I’m in the same situation, so I understand some of your pain.
    Hugs

  155. The Bug says:

    You are in my thoughts. I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. Stay strong and enjoy the time you have with your father.

  156. bzmomma says:

    Oh man…I’m so sorry to hear this. Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family…

  157. Tara says:

    I am so sorry, Zoot–so, so sorry. I haven’t been through this myself, but I supported my husband through the illness & death of his dad just over 2 years ago. Hugs to you & the family.

  158. Chrissy says:

    Hang in there, Zoot. You, your dad, and your family are in my prayers.

  159. Tamara says:

    I hadn’t checked your site in a few days… and this. I am so, so sorry.

  160. Nynke says:

    Oh My Goodness, I am so sorry to hear this. Wishing you and yours much strength.

  161. nonsoccermom says:

    I don’t even know what to say, so I’ll echo the previous commenters. I am so, so sorry. My thoughts are with you all.

  162. Shawna says:

    Oh dude, that is awful. I’m so, so sorry. {hugs}

  163. I am adding to the echos of love and support being sent your way. I am so sorry you have to say goodbye. It isn’t fair. May your daddy have a peaceful escape.

  164. Jenn says:

    Big hugs, I’m so sorry.

  165. Procrastamom says:

    I’m really sorry Zoot. Keeping you in my thoughts.

    V.

  166. Darcey says:

    I am so sorry to hear this. I know it may offer little consolation right now, but my mom mentioned to me, many weeks after her mother passed, how relieved she was that the hospice was there in the end — they were extremely compassionate and caring and yet we never felt like they were hovering, and left us to spend our days with Grandma in peace.

    My deepest and sincerest thoughts are with you and the rest of the Zoot-family. ***HUG***

  167. Reagan says:

    Thank YOU for all of the gifts you’ve given us- let us (the blogging community) know if there’s anything we can do for you. Thoughts are with you.

  168. kali says:

    I am so sorry Zoot. I will keep your family in my thoughts.

  169. E! says:

    Zoot, I am so sorry…lots of prayers to your family.

  170. Sam says:

    I’m really sorry. You are in my thoughts and I hope you get to say everything you need to say in these days with your Dad. He is blessed to have you as a daughter!

  171. Alberto says:

    Miss Zoot, I’m so sorry to hear the news about your father. My thoughts and prayers for you and your whole family.

  172. Thinking of you, as always.

  173. Isabel says:

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  174. Maria says:

    I hope you are doing okay, Miss Zoot.

  175. Vicki says:

    I am so sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
    Vicki

  176. laura says:

    I am praying for you & your family’s strength and your dad’s comfort. XOXO

  177. Kelly M. says:

    Oh dear Zoot, I am so terribly sorry to hear that. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

    Enjoy the time he has remaining as best as you can and celebrate what a great person he is, as it sounds like he sure is.

    With Love.

  178. Jessica says:

    I am so sorry to hear this. Our thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time.

  179. Amy says:

    I’m so sorry! Thinking about and praying for your family.

  180. supertiff says:

    i’m sorry it’s taken so long for me to send some compassion your way, but it seems like this whole thing just happened to me yesterday. it’s rough. and i know it’s rough in the way that when people tell you ‘it’s rough’ you just kind of want to punch them in the face.

    so, i’ll just say this: you’ve created a beautiful family, and your dad has had more than a little to do with that, i’m sure. i’ll be thinking about you all, and how you all make the world a better place.

  181. Amanda says:

    I’m so sorry. You were on my mind this morning so I thought I’d let you know your family is still in my thoughts. (Hugs)

  182. Michelle says:

    I’m so so sorry. You & your family are in my prayers.

  183. Kim R says:

    Kim – I am so, so sorry.

  184. lisa-marie says:

    Kim, I am so sorry. May God bless you and your family.

  185. bad penguin says:

    Kim, I’m so sorry. I went through something similar when my mother-in-law was dying and it was so, so hard. The hospice people were wonderful, but it doesn’t change how terrible and exhausting it is to lose someone you love.

  186. Jackie Joy says:

    Warm thoughts are with you…

  187. Kari says:

    My thoughts are with you Kim…

  188. meg says:

    ur too young for the worry, we all are. Sorry, Peace be w/you!

  189. bzmomma says:

    *sigh*

    still thinking of you…praying for you…enjoy whatever time left you have w/your dad!

    *hugs*

  190. Melizzard says:

    So sorry to hear this. Take care, and we’ll be thinking about you.

  191. Dropping by again (sorry if that’s stalkerish) to say I’m still thinking about you and your family. Hang in there.

  192. Jem says:

    I’m so sorry to hear :o ( lots of love to you guys.

  193. Mandi says:

    Kim, honey. I’m so terribly saddened to hear that your father is this sick. I had no idea. You are in my thoughts during this difficult time. Hugs to you sweetie and your whole family.

  194. DBN says:

    I am so sorry to read this. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

  195. Maria says:

    Missing you, Kim. I hope you are doing okay.

  196. angie says:

    Thinking of you and your family every day!

  197. Elaine says:

    I just wanted to let you know we’re all still thinking of your family right now, even if you’re not posting about it. I hope hospice is helping your dad, and easing the burden for the rest of y’all. I wish I knew what else to say.

  198. Nette says:

    Hey Zoot. I come by every day to see if you’re back yet. I’m sure you know that we’re all thinking of and praying for you and your family.

  199. liza says:

    thinking of you all

  200. You and your family are in my prayers. I think of you often.

  201. Stacy says:

    I was checking to see if you had updated … I hope that doesn’t mean bad news. I wish you and your family well. I hope you are spending good time with each other. Just leaving a comment to let you know I was thinking about you and yours.

  202. Maria says:

    Ditto! I check each day to see how you are and also wanted to let you know that I was thinking of you.

  203. Jenny H. says:

    I am thinking of you all right now…

  204. Pocklock says:

    Oh my goodness. I’m so so so sorry. I’ve been away and I only now got to read this. I knew something was up when I saw you only had one new posted entry in my reader. Thinking of and praying for all of you.

  205. I am so sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

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This is my blog that I've been writing on since January, 2004. I call myself Zoot as it's a derivative of an old childhood nickname. I used to write about my struggles to have children, but eventually I succeeded and now, I write a lot about those kids. I don't use my kid's exact names simply because if someone Googles their very unique names in the future, I don't want them stumbling upon my entries about boobsweat. I mean, would you hire someone whose Mom writes openly about such topics? NO. YOU WOULD NOT.

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