I brought NikkiZ with me to Knoxville for several reasons. The top of the list? Company. I’ve had enough experience with parents in the hospital to know that it can get lonely and boring waiting around for doctors and procedures and whatnot. I thought it would be nice to have someone along I could chat with. Even if that conversations tends to often center around the hilarity of bodily functions.
I also hoped that by bringing NikkiZ with me, I’d be leaving MrZ with a little less stress back home. Of course, I left him with the kid that requires the most assistance (that would be AndyZ…LilZ is pretty self-suficient) but without the one that requires the most conversation…hopefully things are still a bit easier for him.
(OH. MY. GOD. My daughter has turned into such a chatterbox. It’s equally AWESOME and AGGRAVATING.)
So, we’ve been here since Sunday and will probably be here until Mom comes back home on Thursday. (Hopefully.) And let me start by saying she has gone above and beyond what I would have expected. I’ve tried to bring new projects when we have long stretches at the hospital. Like yesterday – when Mom had her gallstones removed. Unfortunately, due to a crazy blood pressure spike that took a while to lower, that turned into a VERY long experience. NikkiZ stayed tolerant for about 5 hours. But those last two? I’m still not sure how either of us survived them.
But over all? It’s been a nice experience…just she and I. The second you have the second child, you always know in the back of your head that none of your kids will get the attention from you they would have if they had been the only child. We all try to find ways to give our kids their individual time and I’m seeing a high dose of why that’s important. But funny enough? Not just for her. I’m seeing how important it is for ME. I feel like I’ve really gotten to know my daughter better these last few days. Like how much like her DAD she is. Jeez. Those two? Cut from the identical mold.
So…valuable lesson learned, I guess. Instead of continually trying to find ways to give my kids their one-on-one time with their parents for their sake, it is equally important to do the same for our sake. We learn more about our kids when they’re not fighting for attention from siblings.
Just thought I’d share this lesson with you. I mean…if I hadn’t brought NikkiZ along on this trip I’d never have known how much she loves to talk about BUTTS and FARTS. (Like I said…exactly like her father.)
My life will never be the same.