I’ve been thinking a lot about secrets lately with scandal after scandal on the news. Thinking about how secrets really stay hidden. I mean, we hear about these stupid scandals all the time: Affairs. Drugs. Illegitimate children. Debt. Theft. Stories where we are all shocked because we are not directly involved, but I always wonder: Are the people involved shocked? Are there really secrets kept successfully? Can money and power really buy silence?
Because I am going to admit something: I can NOT keep a secret. I mean, I can imagine situations where I could, I guess. And maybe there have been a few times where I’ve kept secrets from some people, but only when I’ve had someone else I could tell. If I can chat about the secret with MrZ or a good friend, then keeping it from everyone else would be easier.
But what if I had to keep a secret from everyone? I don’t think I could do it. So, assuming the same is true in these big name scandals, how do the secrets get kept? How do the people involved not confide in at least one person? Or do you think they do? Is anyone really capable of keeping a secret from everyone?
And then I wonder…what if I had to keep a secret from my husband? He’s essentially my Secret Keeper, I guess. The one I can talk to about anything. When people tell me things they know I’ll at least be telling him, even if I can’t tell anyone else. But – what if I was faced with a secret to keep even from him? Could I do it?
I don’t think I could. I feel like it would eat at me until I was able to get it off my chest. I think I would have to tell the person, “Too bad, he’s going to know.” But I’ve never been faced with that.
So…here’s my question to you. Do you have a Secret Keeper? A person you can tell everything? Have you ever had to keep a secret from that person? Do you think anyone is really capable of keeping a secret or do you think we all secretly tell our Secret Keepers and just hope that, since we’re their Secret Keeper, then the secret won’t spread?
I wish I had a secret keeper, because sometimes people tell me things that leave me feeling so laden down, you know? And it’d be a lot lighter if I could share them with at least one more person!
I am a secret keeper. I have had two friends who compliment me on this all the time. People can pour their hearts out and it doesn’t go anywhere.
The flip side of that is I haven’t really been able to find a true secret keeper for me. That gets aggravating because it’s hard for me to understand why they can’t keep secrets and I can, then I get upset when I find out they protrayed my confidence.
I am more of a secret keeper, much like Sandy. I’m that person that people tend to talk to, because I am going to keep my lips sealed no matter what. I suspect this is due in part to me being an only childr.
Side note: I don’t know if it’s because I’m using Firefox or what, but your comment box loads funny for me.
It goes wayyyy to the right so I can’t see what I’m typing after the edge of the blue part, which results in typos
And I’m an English major and feel I must correct my typos. Ahem, the above comment was supposed to end with the word “child.”
My Husband is my secret keeper too. Which makes things kind of sticky for him since we work in the same place… But he’s good like that! He could keep a secret forever, maybe even from me but I don’t plan on testing that out.
I have problems sometimes because I hear secrets from one group of people, that I can talk about with that group but not with people outside the group… am I making any sense??? In the school I work with, I do a lot of work with the administration so I hear things I probably shouldn’t. Once I hear it, I can talk about it with them, but not with my other teacher/friends. And trust me, teachers LOVE to gossip… probably more than the kids!
My husband or my sister is my secret keeper.
I used to not be a secret keeper – it was horrible. Then, in college a friend flat out called me on it and I never forgot that.
It is a damned good thing I learned because I have folks tell me the deepest stuff about themselves. It still shocks me. My mom experiences the same thing – it is as if there is something about us that encourages people to unload their problems. Because let’s face it – secrets are usually problems.
I’m like you, I have to tell someone. Usually, if I can talk about it with my husband, then all’s OK.
That’s a tough one. I can keep a secret. But I haven’t really ever been told anything incredibly dire, life-altering/threatening, or anything like that. I have one person I could tell some secrets to, and another person that I could tell a different set of secrets to. But I really try to keep my secrets to myself
And I’m guessing these scandalous “secret-keepers” couldn’t keep them; that’s generally how stuff like this comes to light.
I always tell people not to tell me secrets, especially ones you don’t want my husband to know. I can’t hold water, let alone a secret, especially from him. I only tell my personal stuff to my husband but I really don’t have any secrets.
NikkiZ is my secret keeper. I can tell that girl anything and she won’t say a word. She’s known for being very quiet and anti-social.
ewww! i like this! there are only 4 in my deepest secret circle, and you’re one of them!
the old saying goes: Two people can keep a secret if one of them is dead.
I am a secret keeper which surprises alot of people because I am so chatty. I figure if it isn’t mine to tell, I don’t tell it. This is not always true with my family but it is always true of people outside my family.
I have no secrets myself because I have children. With children, there are no secrets. Also, no privacy. Good times.
I always have someone to tell… my husband if he’d care, or a close friend (who doesn’t know the person whose secret it is). So, yeah, I’m with you – how does anyone keep it completely bottled up?
I have a Secret Keeper. And the only secrets I have had to keep from her were surprises, so the secret eventually came out.
But if it’s a secret she doesn’t want me to tell even my hubby. I wait until it eats at me enough,then I call her and tell her HER secret.
Dumbledore is my Secret Keeper.
If I couldn’t tell my husband or my BFF then I don’t want to know. It would have to be something so awful and shameful that I wouldn’t want the knowledge.
I can keep a secret, but it usually helps to tell someone that I know won’t spread it. Just one person. I have 2 secret-keepers, my husband and my best friend. Between the two of them they know ALMOST everything about everything that has to do with me in any way. But no one knows everything. Probably not even me…
I can keep a pretty good secret. And I have before. Like BIG ones. I know my husband will keep a secret for me and that he won’t spill it. I also have a good friend that I can trust with things. Though I haven’t tested it out on something big, I trust her with the smaller secrets.
My middle daughter who is 24 years old is my secret keeper, and my secret teller. We never keep anything from each other no matter how bad.
If someone tells my husband a secret and asks him not to tell anyone, he will keep it a secret- even from me most of the time. I’ve found out some gossipy stuff later that my husband knew all along and the person who shared the secret with my husband assumed he had told me. It drives me crazy, even though I do the same thing to him.
Oooh. Such an interesting topic. I think Jason (hubs) is probably my only real secret keeper. Funny thing is, he can keep them from EVERYbody- even me. And I can’t keep them from him. It KILLS me. I can’t stand to think I’m a lying liar from Liarville.
DANG! I had to use it again already. Alrighty… met my quota for tonight.
My bestest friend Tina is mine and she is the best secret keeper EVER! Why? She forgets everything so she can never blab:-)
My BFF is my Secret Keeper, and I am hers. We both know that we can tell each other anything and it will never go any further.
That being said, I do have ONE secret that I have never told a single person. It’s a pretty big one, but one that I will take to my grave. It’s hard sometimes, but the damage that could potentially be done by me spilling it is just too much.
I know this was a serious post, but all I could think of once I saw Secret Keeper was Wormtail and his betrayal of James and Lily.
But seeing as we live in a world free of He-Who-Must-Not-Be-Named (thanks Harry!), I can say that I have no real Secret Keeper. I’m my own, and I serve as one for a few of my friends. There’s no getting into my vault.
When my best friend was pregnant with her 2nd and not yet ready to tell the world, I didn’t even tell my husband. She was shocked when she realized he didn’t know, but hey, if you tell me not to tell, I’m not telling!
omg! i’m seeing pix! something must be wrong!! but shhhhhh!
Like Sandy, I usually am the Secret Keeper. Unless it’s something that needs to be told (someone is being hurt, physically or emotionally), I don’t tell. I’m also kind of my own Secret Keeper. People tell me I’m almost too private. I think this is why every time I’ve tried to start a personal, diary-type blog, I’ve failed miserably.
I have secrets – I know I do lol. I don’t really have any one to tell them to though lol. I guess I’m worried how the people around me might judge me.
P.s. Do you read PostSecret?
Hehe, I have a best friend I’ve had online for over 10 years, and I’m 25 now. I tell her EVERYTHING. She lives on the opposite side of the world to me so I guess there’s not many secrets that will be given away…we’ve met in person twice. There’s only one thing I haven’t told her, and that’s a secret my best guy friend told me in real life, and the only reason I haven’t told her is ’cause I’m the first person he’s told his secret to in the world, and he kept stating that, so I kinda didn’t want the second person to be someone he doesn’t know. hah.