Comments on: Dear Dad,

By: Wacky Mommy

Wacky Mommy — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 06:15:56 +0000

you and your dad were just right for each other, huh? that is very, very, extremely cool. i am sorry he was gone too soon.

we’re all out here, whenever you need to “talk.” therapy is overrated. you’d be all, “one of my blog readers said…” and “oh, i heard the smartest thing, that you should… blah blah… now where did i hear that? OH! MY BLOG.” ha.

By: junkie

junkie — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 04:57:16 +0000

do whatever you need to do, girl…your dad would want that for you. and always know how much i love you. i’ve been absolutely horrible with contact for a while, i know, but that doesn’t mean i don’t miss you and your family all the time. holla at me for anything…anytime. i love you.

By: Chris

Chris — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 22:59:08 +0000

I just read this (sat nite after auction). I wish I could tell you I was crying for you, because I feel bad for you. Unfortunately, I’m crying for us. I feel the same way. I feel bad for us. All I know to say is that I love you and thank God everyday for you.

By: lynne

lynne — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 17:14:23 +0000

Hi Kim, Sounds like you are going through a hard time and understandably too. I never went through any grief council ling myself but I know it can help some people so I’d give it a try. When all your body is aching for someone you love I don’t think there is a short cut to finding your way out of the pain. I over worked myself for years to stop my brain thinking about the last through years of my fathers life (he had dementia) but ended up with a worn out body and my fears and experiences visited my dreams anyway giving me insomnia. One thing I did read recently which struck a cord with me is the idea of being your own parent. When you are parented well and have a close bond with your parent/s which it sounds like you did, you still have the stability of their love and teaching within you which helps you make the right choices ( does this make sense?). I never got to have adult conversations about my life with my Dad as I was little more than a teen when he fell ill, but I still feel his love within the respect and self regard I have for myself and the way I live my life is how he for the most part would have wished. Your Dad must have been outstandingly proud of you and although you can’t phone him or talk to him (outside of your head) the love he had for you still exists and he still lives on within your life and how you bring up your children.

By: BZMomma

BZMomma — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 15:02:35 +0000

Oh Kim…I’m so sorry…

{hugs}

By: jen @ negative lane

jen @ negative lane — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 20:37:17 +0000

Finally getting up the nerve to go into therapy was one of the best things I ever did.

I’m sorry that you’re hurting and feeling lost.

By: caffeine addict

caffeine addict — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 17:12:24 +0000

I have enjoyed reading your blog for a while. This post has really touched my heart. I lost my dad 14 years ago this past November and i too miss him and think of him everyday. I’m sorry for your pain.

By: Allison

Allison — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 16:10:40 +0000

Thinking about you today… The first anniversary’s are so hard. Love you and here if you need ANYTHING… Seriously.

By: supertiff

supertiff — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 21:35:46 +0000

it kills me to read about you and your dad. i lost mine in 2004, and i’m sorry to say it hasn’t gotten any easier. and we didn’t even have a good relationship. the point is, while i know it pains you, i appreciate your honesty because it gives me a chance to sit back and say: “you know what, it IS ok to cry about this.”

thank you.

By: sally

sally — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 20:21:11 +0000

and Kim, remember, if Donnie has a job (meaning not self employed but group health insurance) you get 4 free visits through the Employee Assistance Program (EAP). Or at least I did. It’s available to any covered family member.