So, you know how I’ve written at least 50 times lately about how HORRIBLE Wes has been at age 3? And that Nikki was the same way but she got much better at 4? If recent developments are to be trusted, we’ll be able to say the same thing about Wes.
He turns four in May but lately? He has been SO MUCH BETTER. The threats of time out actually work and nip bad behavior in the bud. He apologizes for misbehaving. Reminders of, “When do you obey?” actually illicit the proper response, “First time!” followed by: ACTUALLY OBEYING. But above all else? He has gotten SO SWEET.
On top of just the improvement in behavior, he has become a snuggle bunny times A MILLION. He has always been a lover, not a hater. He wants to be held and – while mostly shy around strangers – if someone offers to hold him? He’s all theirs. He’ll let them pick him up and then he’ll snuggle with them. Which, of course, wins him the hearts of many unsuspecting women.
But lately? It’s been more than that. He just wants to LOVE on everyone. And it’s WONDERFUL. Granted – a lot of the time it’s because he doesn’t want to walk, but STILL. His new thing? “Momma, will you hold me? I’ll keep you WARM.” I’ll pick him up and he’ll wrap his arms around me SO TIGHT and keep me warm. He also wants to snuggle in bed (“I don’t need a nap, just a hug.”) and he wants to sit in my lap WHEREVER we are.
And yes…if this was all still accompanied by the dreadful “AGE THREE IS FROM THE DEVIL” behavior? It would not be as welcomed. But with this new and improved, maybe-I-won’t-sell-him behavior? I can’t get enough of it.
The best moment was yesterday. I was scrubbing the sink in his bathroom and he just came in and was talking to me. Suddenly he said, “Thank you, Momma, for cleaning our bathroom.”
SHUT THE FRONT DOOR.
That’s unusual behavior in a child at ANY age. Hell…I admit to sometimes asking my husband to notice and appreciate those type of things.
In conclusion? I am in love with my child again. Not that I ever didn’t LOVE him, but sometimes – when his behavior was so awful and my patience had grown so thin – I might not have liked him all that much. But now? And I’m not even lying: I sometimes wake him up early just so I can enjoy more time with him before I go to work.