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Do Over

Bah. I tried to pontificate on something this morning and I realized after one comment that the post was NOT written well and maybe it came across a little self-involved (I mean, I am self-involved, but my point was to be the opposite) and I remembered that writing blog posts at 3:30am does not always mean GOOD content. I’m also off this week just in general. I’ve made some frustrating mistakes on a personal level and I’m overwhelmed with catching up on my domestic life after being gone for 4 days and there’s soccer and swimming and Eliah is getting his wisdom teeth pulled today and I’m not there…so…I’m just frazzled. And my post this morning did not convey what I was trying to convey. So I put it in draft mode for another day.

Let’s be kind to each other today, okay? Some are carrying around burdens you can’t see.

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The Future Is Not Here Yet. In Case You Were Wondering.

Hey! I have an idea! Let’s quit setting the “scheduled” posts in WordPress because Zoot is too dumb to understand complicated things like “the future”.

Spoiler Alert: WE ARE NOT IN 2015 YET. If you set a post to publish in 2015, IT WILL NOT DO IT UNTIL 2015. I have made this mistake several times now, yet still, it continues!

Let’s recap, shall we?

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First! It’s Soccer Season! Wesley aged up to U8 and Nikki aged up to U10 and y’all? U10 is SO MUCH FUN. This is almost like REAL soccer. There’s a goalie (and we have some kickass goalies) and the girls understand field positioning and strategy and adapt in the moment and there’s some INSANE levels of athleticism. It’s great. I have loved watching her and her team SO MUCH. Wes is doing well too, they’re playing longer quarters this year in U8 and it does require a little bit more of an understanding of the game and not just, “Crowd the ball…try to score.”

I will say this – it is really difficult to wrangle two kids for soccer when most days we only have one free parent. Donnie and I are always both training for SOMETHING and we have to squeeze in our training during our non-work hours (obviously) so, most days, one of us needs to be doing a workout overlapping with one game or practice. I’m taking all practices right now but Saturday mornings, one of us ALWAYS has to be doing SOMETHING. Luckily, Nikki’s coach lives down the road so when there are simultaneous games at different ball parks (Yep. That’s fun.) they can help us out. This past weekend Donnie was finished with his bike ride before soccer started and I did my run afterwards. He took Wes’s game as he saw Nikki last, and I took Nikki’s. It’s weekends like this where I’m grateful we didn’t squeeze in another kid after Wesley. At least now we’re one-to-one.

photo 2We used Sunday Family Dinner this week to wish Good Luck to Donnie at his Ironman on Saturday. The entire family (his parents, brother, sister and their counterparts) all donned #TeamDonnie shirts as a surprise. We also all wrote him a “Good Luck” letter and he’s choosing one blindly every day this week as encouragement to build up to his race on Sunday. If you care about such things, feel free to follow me on Instagram which is probably where I’ll be posting my updates. You can also track him with the My Athlete Live tracker ap on your phone OR you can check his progress at the Ironman website. They always have live feeds set up for race day and if you’ve never watched the finish line of an Ironman? I highly recommend it. We often gather the family around our computer to watch our friends and it’s weirdly riveting to watch strangers accomplish a task this daunting. So many different reactions at the finish line! But all of them having just traversed 140.6 miles – so it’s awe inspiring.

This week involves a lot of me at the computer trying to do catch up (we had a BIG project at work culminate last week – EEK! So proud and excited!! Check it out!) so that I can take half a day off Friday and half a day off Monday surrounding Donnie’s Ironman. It’s a big week in our family. I’m sure you have at least one sappy, “My husband is so amazing!” entry to look forward to before and after this event.

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Crazy Cat Lady

I am constantly seeing memes or cartoons or articles shared online where they complain about “those” people on Facebook/Twitter/Instagram. Maybe the are mocking people who post about every run they do (ME!) or Moms who constantly brag on their kids (ME TOO!) or pitiful family members who post 900 pictures of their dogs/cats (GUILTY) or nerds who post YouTube videos every five seconds (OVER HERE!). Yeah – basically – any time I see an article/cartoon/meme mocking “those” Facebookers, or Tweeters, or Instagram accounts I’m all, “THAT’S ME!”

So! What I’m hoping is that I do it ALL so it never becomes annoying because my annoying habits are PLENTIFUL! Annoying isn’t as annoying if you do it in several different ways, right?

That said…Here’s a picture of my cat!

Her name is Sunflower and she has an interesting personality. She grew up with Donnie’s dogs so in some ways we used to say she thought she was a dog. She would cuddle with them and eat with them and never really seemed to notice they were different from her. She doesn’t flinch when family brings their dogs over and doesn’t care when we dogsit. (My other cat – Bambi – tolerates our dogs but if any other dogs come over? He harasses them as if to say, “I allow the ones who live her but I will NOT allow others.”)

But Sunflower is still quite anti-social. You can go days without seeing her, and when you DO see her, it’s a glimpse past your feet as you walk into the room. She seems to like being away from us most of the times.

BUT! When she wants attention? You better be ready for it because she’s going to demand. She’ll hop on your lap wherever you are and insist that you rub her head/belly/back. And then she leaves and you won’t see her again.

There are certain places in the house where I can lay down in certain ways and call for her and she’ll come to me. If I’m on the couch upstairs, on my belly, she’ll come sleep on my back. If I’m on my bed downstairs, on my back, she’ll come sleep on my belly.

She’s a weird cat, but she is predictable.

WELL! This week she has been totally throwing me for a loop. She NEVER comes to me at my desk but she’s been visiting me frequently there this week. She’s hopped up in my lap for love, she’s harassed me at my keyboard and she’s even just hung out and napped here…TWICE. It’s the weirdest thing and the Person Who Watched Someone Die in me is totally freaked out that she’s sick.

(This entry took a turn for the sad quickly, didn’t it?)

She is 14-15 years old. I rescued her as a partner for Bambi shortly after Donnie and I stared dating in early 2000. I don’t think she’s sick, there’s really not any other signs of illness, but man…when humans are dying you get to read a lot about how their mind can react in the end to create a totally different personality, and my brain is remembering all of that literature from when Dad was in hospice and I find myself thinking: This is it. She’s dying.

But I’m going to push those depressing thoughts to the side and just enjoy the sudden change in socialization. This office is sometimes lonely, it’s nice to have company periodically.


Wanted: Help Entertaining Kids For Hours With Very Limiting Criteria

So! Yesterday was Donnie’s half Ironman and it was a trial run of sorts for how the kids will do at the Full Ironman. We’ve cheered at 70.3 races before but we usually sit in one place all day and have a bathroom and a car nearby. The full Ironman in three weeks will have tons of walking, take twice as long, and I’m not positive we’ll have anything but port-o-potties as bathroom options. (IF WE EVEN HAVE THAT at some times.)

I learned two things yesterday.
1) The gear we have is perfect. Easily portable and light and I can stop worrying about that. (YAY!)
2) Bringing along games or technology causes an infinite loop of fighting or bickering over who gets what. (BOO!)

My kids don’t have iPads or iTouches. Wes has a Leapster and an Innotab 2, Nikki has a Kindle. Yesterday they fought over the Kindle ALL DAY. When it finally died (thank god) they started fighting over the other items. It’s not even consistent as to who gets what – it basically just seems like if ONE person looks like they’re having more fun than the OTHER person, then they want THAT item. It was hours of me looking at my watch and telling them when to switch and that MADE ME CRAZY.


1. Give Them Both Phones With The Same Game.
Donnie and I both have iPhones. We could put the same game on both of them and they could play the same game all day and not fight. The downsides of this:
1) We would need battery packs for those phones.
2) Their faces are in screens all day. WHICH I HATE THAT.

2. Remove the options of technology all together.
Come up with portable projects/crafts/activities like card games (Which sometimes still causes fighting) that they can carry around and pull out relatively easily. It needs to be the kind of thing they can either do together or that they can each have in their own back. MUST BE LIGHT AND EASILY PORTABLE. We won’t be jumping up and relocating every 30 minutes, but there will be several points in the day we need to quickly pack up and jump on a shuttle to move to another location. The downsides of this:
1) Might not entertain them as easily as the technology does/did
2) Might be less portable/easy to clean. Phones are one item easily thrown into a bag

I guess in the perfect world we do it BOTH ways? Maybe? And I give them time limits? I don’t know.

So! This is what I need for you:

  • Recommendations for iPhone5 battery packs.
  • Portable crafts/games/projects. Think THINGS YOU DO ON A PLANE

Basically this trip takes the toughest parts of Flying and Camping and puts it into one 13+ hour day from beginning to end. And that’s if Donnie finishes between 11 and 12 hours.

If you live in Chattanooga and think spectating an Ironman could be fun, let me know. I could ask for your services a bit either as transportation (we’re kinda stuck without a car for various reasons that day) or as a resource for questions OR especially for emergencies. I have a basic idea of what we’re doing, where we’re going but there are a few points I’d love to ask a local about.


#SpreadingJoy #PositiveNipples

HAHHAHAHAHA! I wrote this post this a.m. but accidentally published it as a PAGE instead of a POST so it didn’t show up on my Feed. I AM AN IDIOT.

I’ve written before about how strongly I believe in the idea that the world gives me what I put into it. But, no matter how strong I believe in it – I still struggle, especially around my kids, to remember this. Some days, through my interactions with those two alone, I dump giant 50 gallon tubs of SHIT into the world and wonder why it trickles back my way.

BUT STILL! I have Faith in the Power of the Positive Ripples.

(Completely different from the Power of Positive Nipples. Don’t get the two confused.)

(Oh My God. I just cracked myself up with that line. So much so that I added it to the title.)

(WARNING: I’m writing this at 2:30am on a Sunday before we have to leave at 4:30am for 70.3 race of Donnie’s. My evaluation of “humor” is probably a little off.)

ANYWAY! One of the subtle changes I’ve been trying to make in my life to promote this idea of Spreading Joy into the world, is to follow through on kind ideas. Sometimes I’ll think, “I should send her a sympathy card…” or “I should buy that for him…” or “I should send her a message telling her I think X is an awesome thing about her…” but I never follow through. I get these GREAT moments of inspiration to spread the joy into someone’s life, but then I don’t do anything about it. Sometimes it’s because it’s an expensive idea so – you know – I can’t really follow through there. But, often it’s something free or just affordable, a small gesture to show someone I’m thinking about them, or that I care. And I used to be SO BAD about just letting those ideas fall to the wayside and never actually seeing them through.

But these last few weeks I’ve been REALLY trying to follow-thru more. I’m not setting out to THINK of positive things to do in other people’s lives…I’m not that enlightened (yet?) – but when the ideas come to me, I don’t just let them drift into the ether without any action. Perfect example: I saw a grocery item at the store recently that reminded me of a conversation a friend and I had and I thought, “I should bring this to him!” It wasn’t anything expensive or special or even too unique (I mean, it was a Target, we’re not talking about exotic produce or anything) but it just made me think it would make my friend smile. I left the store without it, which is my natural instinct when I get one of these ideas. Just to let it pop into my head, and then pop out without seeing any action.

BUT! The next time I was at Target? I did it. I bought the silly grocery item and then I went directly and gave it to my friend while he was at work. Bam. It didn’t take hardly any time or money and it gave him the biggest smile. Mission Accomplished.

Those ideas pop into my head all the time, and I can’t always follow through. BUT – since I’ve been more conscience of them – I’ve realized that there are plenty I can follow through on, and I have. I’m not great at it (yet?), but I’ve done it a few times in the last month, so I feel like it’s getting to be more habitual than it was before. Also, I now find that the ideas are popping into my head more. Sometimes they’re too expensive or I just don’t have the time, but if I encourage those ideas by following through on them when I can, they pop into my head more often.

And now I think I’d like to take it to another level. I’d like to come up with some generic “Nice Things” items to do/make so that, when I want to send somebody a positive thought or kind gesture, I can consult my pinterest board (which is currently empty) and just pick an idea to do it. Or if I feel like there’s been a lot of sadness in my community, I can find an idea to spread joy on a wider level. I just love the idea of taking small steps that make a big impact in the life of people. My dark days have been brightened so often by gestures of love and kindness, I consider it my job to send that type of energy back into the universe.

REAL TIME EXAMPLE: After that paragraph I just wrote I went to add things to the Pinterest board just to make it have SOMETHING and found a great idea about make hearts so – instead of just pinning it – I ordered some sculpey on Amazon (On sale! Cheaper than at Michaels!) and it will be here Tuesday. I have already decided to send one in a note to my kid’s room moms to thank them for their time/efforts. SEE! Great idea and I am taking the actions to actually see it through. And that $20 on clay will make, I’d say – 100 hearts. And the kids can help! Then those moments take no time because we’ll have a stash of hearts to send!

So. If you have any ideas for this type of thing, Random Acts Of Kindness type things, please send them my way. I can actually add you to that board if you’d like, but I’m not going to just randomly add people without their permission. Then I’m just a #SpreadingJoy bully and no #PositiveNipples will be created.

(Hee. Still funny.)